To many of us marriage is a very important milestone of our lives. LOVE is usually the reason. If love is a feeling, then the only thing we can do is enjoy it when it comes and hope for it to come back soon when it is not there. If love, however is a decision, it becomes something I can choose to have at any moment of my life. We then begin to be less self-centered and more other-centered. We decide to grow in love and put the need to listen ahead of the solution to the problem. I focus my attention on your goodness. I can choose to focus on my beloved not just when our romance is at its peak, but when I feel angry, resentful, hurt or depressed. We choose to be active participants of our relationship and reveal the true good/ bad feelings through communication, we choose to have a love affair that lasts a lifetime.